Your Parental Responsibilities
Your intentions and what happens could be vastly different in the long-term but our advice is you need to be very clear about what you can and will do – and equally what you are not prepared to allow i.e. no visitation if you have children under 16 years of age.
Some people run for the hills when they consider having the `sit down’ talk with their kids, but fact is, you need to do it. Children will always be sad but wonder most importantly where they fit in. This is especially pertinent if you have moved on with anther partner. There is no guarantee they will accept your new partner but you at least need to let them know that there is space in your new life and home for them.
This can cause issues with your new partner as the children can cause a lot of problems, there is no rule book, no right or wrong, each family or blended family unit needs to find their feet. Everyone will go through different stages; grief, sadness, excitement, elation, sadness, resentment then hopefully acceptance.
Main Custodial Parent
This means where the child lives most of the time. This is the parent where the child support of CSA payments will go to, they will take care of schooling etc. If the relationship has completely broken down, the courts may insist on the custodial parent’s home being visited to ensure the child is in a safe environment and being looked after. This can be extremely upsetting as the parents feel judged for their parenting skills, but in divorces in UK, the child under 16 is the focus, not so much the parents / adults who are getting divorced. They need evidence that the child will be looked after, and that is completely fair and reasonable. It is just upsetting for all.